the Other Press

March 14, 1991

 

 

 

_ A Gay Man’s Guide To Erotic Safer Sex

Lubafax. One size fits all but before you roll the condom when eating out a woman. They

 

by Patrick Bamholden
and Padraic Brake

WARNING: These
guidelines contain explicit
language. If you can’t cope with
reality, don’t read on.

Fear of AIDS is no reason to
decrease the amount of sex you
have or the number of sex
partners you have. As gay men
and lesbians, we have adapted
our sexual practices to take into
account the risk factors of the
various ways we live out our
passions.

HIV is the virus that is
thought to cause AIDS and it can
be passed from one person to
another during sex through the
exchange of cum or blood. But
remember, since we learned
about how to protect ourselves
from HIV we've had years to
make safe sex exciting, fun and
worth staying awake at night
for. It is not the number of
people or the kind of people you
have sex with that puts you at
risk -- it is specific high risk
activities -- activities you can
easily avoid.

Anal intercourse
with a condom (a
lower risk activity)

As I woke up I could feel Mark's
hard cock pressing into my ass and
was immediately reminded of last
night. My first move was to reach
down beside the bed and grab the
last remaining condom.

Opening the package as I could
feel Mark smearing my ass with
K-Y I could only think of the ecstasy
I would feel within minutes. I put
the rubber on the tip of his beautiful
cock and squeezed the tip and rolled
it down to the base. Squirting more
K-Y onto his cock he slipped into my
already lubricated ass.

The eroticization of safe sex
has been crucial in the efforts of
our community to educate
ourselves. Telling our stories of
wild safe sex serves to make us
all aware of the myriad
possibilities for lust and passion
in our lives. Anyone can become
infected with HIV but anyone
can also play safe. Learning how
to use condoms properly and
assessing the risk factors of
various activities is all you need
to know to play safe.

Mutual
masturbation (a no
risk activity)

I lay on my back as Fred sat
across my hips, his limp cock restin,
on my abdomen. I reached my fi
hand up to his left nippleas my right
hand took hold of his cock and balls.
Within seconds I could feel his cock
hardening in my hand. I slowly
worked my hand up and down his
shaft, accelerating my actions and
pinching his nipples as I worked to
make him cum. Soon I heard the
telltale sounds from deep within his
throat and knew that I was about to
feel his cum squirting all across my
chest.

When choosing a condom
always choose latex — you can
use either lubricated or
non-lubricated but always use
additional water-based
lubricant such as K-Y jelly or

 

Trojan now hasa largesized one down. It never hurts to practice

for the man with a big ego.
When putting on the
condom you can squeeze some
lubricant into the tip. Always
squeeze the air out of the tip

 

on your own (or with a friend) a
few times before you actually
fuck with one.

Dental dams are pieces of

are available at some drugstores
and at dental suppliers.
Condoms can also be cut up one
side and used in the same
manner.

Fellatio without a
condom and
swallowing cum (a
low risk activity)

I had heard Raghu’s message
on the answering machine very
clearly, "I'll be over around 10 and
suck your cock within the first 3
minutes." Raghu never wasted
time. The doorbell rang at 10:04 —I
had thought he would unit at least
until the door was closed before he
went down on his knees and found
his way into my pants. Before I was
even finished my hellos his mouth
was filled with my swelling cock.
Looking down and seeing his head
move up and down and feeling his
tongue circle my cock I felt at home
once again. Raghu speeded up and
slowed down his actions several
times as he brought me to the point
of explosion. "Ohhh, I’m gonna
cum now Raghu" I moaned. He kept
his lips tightly around me as my
cum shot down his throat.

Here are guidelines for
assessing the risk of different
activities.

HIGH RISK OF HIV
TRANSMISSION

Anal intercourse (ass
fucking) without a condom

Vaginal intercourse without
acondom

Sharing sex toys ( dildoes
etc.) without thorough cleaning
or condcms

Any activities where there is
contact from one bloodstream to
another

LOWER RISK OF
HIV
TRANSMISSION

Anai or vaginal intercourse

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Unprotected oral sex on a
woman during her period

Unprotected oral sex on a
man (cocksucking) with or
without swallowing cum

LOW RISK OF HIV
TRANSMISSION

French kissing

Drinking pee

Oral/ = anal
(rimming)

Eating shit

Giving or getting head
(cocksucking) with a condom

Getting head without a
condom

Giving head without a
condom, no ejaculation

Oral sex on a woman
without a dental dam outside
her period

Oral sex with a dental dam

Patrick Barnholden is a gay AIDS
activist who recently moved to St John's

and Padraic Brake is a gay rights activ-
ist at Memorial University.

Oliver Sipple

Oliver Sipple. Name
probably means nothing to most
of you. Oliver Sipple died
several springs ago. We are
approaching the anniversary of
his death. Time gave hima small
obituary. He died alone.

 

Sipple’s passing was tragic.
Tragic because he, a Vietnam
vet, had saved President Ford’s
life. Sipple, if he were "straight"
probably would have been a
national hero. Oliver Sipple was
Bay. The U.S. doesn’t recognize

omosexuality as a quality that
heros possess. Too bad. Oliver
Sipple was a hero. He risked his
life for another. He stopped an

assassination. He was
ostracized.
Oliver Sipple, may you find

yourself among friends now.
Bless you.

 

      
 

 

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