gender identity that is fluid and changing or simply non-gendered. Bi-gender is a term that describes people who have both a male and female gender identity, expressed at different times. They may identify as a man and be masculine in some situations and at other times identify as a woman and be feminine. They express themselves as distinctly masculine and distinctly feminine depending on context. In contrast, a genderqueer person (such as myself) feels neither male nor female and rejects the gender binary system, instead seeing gender as a spectrum with masculine and feminine at opposite extremes, and their own gender as somewhere along the continuum. A genderqueer person may use traditional gender pronouns, like he and she, interchangeably; or may opt for gender neutral pronouns such as Ze and Hir or s/he (in case you’re wondering I use she and he interchangeably). If all this information overwhelms you, don’t worry! No one expects you to soak it in all at once; it’s a lot to learn and understand. Basically, as I said before, pansexuality is a potential attraction to all people regardless of gender identity or biological sex. David Jay and Helen Clay of asexuality to date, it is tempting to wonder what it is that “makes” someone asexual, and to view it as a disorder that needs to be fixed: but I would ask whether we’d do the same thing for hetero- or homosexuals. I think if you define a disorder as something that causes unhappiness, then asexuality is, of itself, certainly not a disorder—since finding out that I’m asexual and that I’m not the only one on the planet, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been; and that’s a common feeling amongst asexuals. I’m no spring chicken, so how come I didn’t know I was asexual until recently? Asexuals aren’t alone Asexuality is defined as an orientation characterized by a lack of desire for sex. It is distinct from celibacy, which is a choice. Because there has been very little awareness The answer is that there are different types of asexual. Many are quite content with their friends, and do not desire romantic attachments, while some are also averse to any physical contact. Others, like me, are termed “romantic” asexuals, because while we don’t desire sex, we do long for a closer relationship with a special someone. I love physical affection, like hugs and cuddles and holding hands, but the problem I had in the past was that all these things come bundled up with an expectation that they will lead to sex. And while I’m not sex-averse, I’d really rather not go there! Coolest hing S94 COORDINAT® R DE me ", Spent ¢ Summer} in He Golepeges > Human RIGHTS for my tH Search : China, heloin people (th Damnie’s Fi DBSERVER “TRAINING | ette « : with Hiv/Aso ¢ (ving J REE “ . | volunteer, % Scremce i$ creativiky. Leaching kids Atrios - Le aittic! that's what | try we SCIENCE. v Ag rn : n'est oa get kads XP See. a fone tennis bell Vv Fy you R THOOGAT * : ehill. | ast mosker, Mais , : —_ take What (£ eiooe: 7K * he / tual, 3 ch meonhened te 4 lex ] # bring ball? pol ta OU, Stowe ~ : z5 Pevkecking the canned is Gued- o n 4 ae Vel eit ) Living i havoes with is gETIER Fan, J 7p : Vunteered te do ; ese hamiety "eoreabion or Hel build Colleac: Wgpneee in cousl ot . dent Yewng ids. he eae deine 7 ae some e cont "