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who lose, lose. “The goal” does not
care about the means.

Not surprisingly, most people do not like to
think of sex this way. It flies in the face of the
typical wisdom that hopeless romantics like to
regurgitate. Doggedly hanging on for “the one”
in the hopes that he or she will one day notice
you is a poor way to achieve “the goal.”

This brings up a lot of ugly little details related

to sex that people try to ignore. It is the end

result of an extremely shallow selection process.
To stereotype the two genders, men tend to be
more visual, making assessments of fertility by
observing physical attributes. This may go hand
in hand with the “sexy son” theory — the idea that
a more attractive mate implies more attractive
offspring, ensuring greater future legacy.

Women are just as visual, but also tend to respond
to perceived masculine behaviour. Men who
demonstrate the greatest physical health, confidence,
and social leadership project desirability because,
in theory, they are capable of protecting the tribe.
Some may argue that common attitudes suggest
that this is not the case—that men and women do
not select mates differently—but human behaviour
often speaks for itself. As we have established,

men and women are equal partners in conception,
but they are not interchangeable, therefore

their selection methods differ by necessity.

Observation 3: Sex is natural selection
“The goal” is not fair. It is not a birthright. It must,

indeed, be earned. Out of a sense of
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decency, we as a society like to deny these self-evident
facts in order to appear civilized, to differentiate our
cosmopolitan selves from those base sapient creatures
lower down on the food chain. We cannot deny that
our selection methods differ not a bit from those used
by nature’s rank-and-file. In order to be traditionally
sexually attractive, men must prove themselves strong
leaders, and women must prove themselves fertile.

The fact of the matter is, whether you are a man or

a woman, most of the people on the planet do not
want to have sex with you because they think they
can “do better.” This is immutable, how attractive

or unattractive you may be. What “better” means—
and whether or not they can, in fact, “do better’—is
debatable. As above, “better” is interpreted differently
by men and women, but both share the motivation

to find the most appealing partner they can,
pertaining either to attractiveness or social status.

In order to keep the syllogism on point, let us say
that fully two-thirds of the human population
ascribe to a similar ideal of attractiveness for both
men and women. The minority has sexual tastes
contrary to the established norm. Those who
correspond most closely to this ideal will have the
easiest access to sex, and therefore reproduction.
Those who do not will still attempt to “punch
above their weight class,” in a manner of speaking.
This is where the idea of “doing better” comes
from, and most people exhibit this behaviour.

     
 

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