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Computer Staff continued

ions; PC software ques-
tions/hard disks/software
installations.

Carole Nelson - Computer Sup-
port Assistant (4722)

WordPerfect questions; optical
mark reader questions; optical
scanner questions; laser printer
cartridge replacement; file trans-
fers (DG/PC, PC\DG);
electronic mail (WP) including
WordPerfect document file
transfers between user-IDs;
AOS/VS file transfers between
users; calendar (WordPerfect
library); phone messaging
(WordPerfect library).

xeoff Campbell - Systems
Manager/Analyst (4723)

System operations (mini-com-
puter care and feeding); SRS
equipment and programming
problems; lost file recovery
(where possible); user IDs;
password replacement; terminal
problems; remote electronic
mail questions (CEO post of-
fice); data communications
(dial-in service).

Marsh Price - Manager of Sys-
tems and Computing (4720)
"The Court of Last Resort"

Service suggestions and/or com-
plaints; college or department
appplications/software sugges-
tions/requests; employee
computer purchase; computer re-
lated equipment requests.

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Minimize Divorce
Trauma for Children

IIIf Jim and Lorraine are
divorced, but they still have one
thing in common that brings
them together - their children.

Like many separated couples,
they realize all too well that you
can’t get a divorce from paren-
thood, and you can’t overlook
the traumatic effects breaking up
has on children.

The process of spouse separa-
tion and how it affects children
will be presented in a one-eve-
ning workshop, Children are
Non-Divorceable, November
18 at Douglas College.
Psychologist Dr. Rob Lees will
conduct the course.

The workshop will explore
how to see divorce from the
child’s perspective and how to
help them deal with their pain.

According to the National
Council on Family Relations, 60
percent of all North American
children will spend one to five
years in a single parent family.
In other words, more than half
of the continent’s children will
face the trauma of their mother
and father breaking up, will
have to adapt to split families,
and often will have to accept
step mothers and step fathers.
To some children the process
can be devastating.

But the child’s pain can be
minimized, says Lees, a mar-
riage and family therapist in
Chilliwack. Parents must under-
stand the separation process and

 

initiate steps to reduce their
children’s pain.

During the workshop, Lees
will discuss ways to break the
news to children, and ways to
ask children for their forgive-
ness.

"Separation has an enormous
impact on the child’s life," says
Lees. "They are the victims.
Parents can’t change that, but
they can acknowledge their
child’s pain and ask for forgive-
ness for causing the pain."

Parents must recognize that a
divorce, in a sense, is a loss.
Sensing the loss, the child will
go through the stages of grief,
says Lees.

"Children may act out; they
will show anger and desponden-
cy -- this is normal grieving.
But if divorced parents can co-
operate and form an executive
relationship, the transition for
the children will be much
easier," says Lees.

And often, after adjusting to
the separation, children are sud-
denly faced with their parents’
dating and sometimes remarry-
ing.

"Tf the divorce is handled
well, then the transition into the
next family will be that much
easier," says Lees. "Anda
single parent family can func-
tion as a healthy family. It will
have unique strains and stresses,

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