Stop faking your orgasms

> Faking it till you make it is not
helpful when it comes to sex

Jessica Berget
Opinions Editor

 

So has a lot of positive benefits. It

is great way to relieve stress, show
intimacy with your partner, express
yourself sexually, and above all, it’s fun
and feels good. However, if you feel like
you must fake your orgasms for whatever
reason, it can cause unnecessary stress,
and can make sex feel like a chore, which
completely defeats the purpose.

It is a known fact that a lot of women
fake their orgasms—about 50 per cent
according to a study by the National
Centre for Biotechnology Information
(NCBI). However, did you know that about
25 per cent of men among college students
have also faked their orgasms?

Although these numbers are varied
substantially, all genders are prone to
faking their climaxes for the same reasons.
One of the main reasons is that they don’t
want to be put in awkward situations, like
making their partner feel bad for not being
able to make them finish, but there are
also many other reasons. Maybe they want
the sex to end because they are bored, or
not enjoying it, they are in pain, or they
want to make their partners feel good and
help them finish first by overacting their
pleasure. No matter the gender, faking
your orgasms is a temporary, short-term
solution to a much bigger and deeply-
rooted problem.

Faking it causes a lot more issues
than it solves, especially for women. Let’s
face it, vaginas are complicated, and,
generally speaking, it’s harder for girls to

Nothing wrong at all with taking Adderall

orgasm during sex than it is for guys. A

lot of women tend to believe that there is
something wrong with them because their
partner can’t make them climax, but it’s
not the womans fault. In fact, although
penetrative sex is the most common form
of heterosexual sex, about 75 per cent

of women have trouble finishing from it
alone, as reported by ABC News.

Unsurprisingly, a lot of this has to
do with the unrealistic expectations that
pornography creates. Because of porn,
many women just mimic what they see
because they think that’s how they are
supposed to act in a sexual situation.

You can also end up forgetting what

you actually like about sex. Faking your
orgasms on a regular basis ends up turning
more into a sexual performance more than
it is an intimate moment between you and
your sexual partner.

Faking your orgasms also creates
a wall between you and your partner.
Because they think you are enjoying what
they are doing, they are—naturally—going
to keep doing it. Unless you communicate
with your partner what you like and dislike
in sex, nothing is going to change. This
can also cause a lot of problems with your
partner regarding trust and intimacy. If
you can't healthily communicate to your
partner what you want and how you want
it, how can you communicate in any other
aspect of your relationship?

Even if you are not in a relationship or
are just hooking up, you should never have
to sacrifice your pleasure or your sexual
needs to save your partners ego. Be honest
with them, and do not be afraid to tell
them what you want.

> Taking drugs for ADHD shouldn't be frowned upon

Greg Waldock
Staff Writer

 

here’s nothing wrong with needing
to take medication just to help
with the smaller problems in life.
Brains are complicated. They're big
balls full of hormones and electricity
and weird, fleshy supercomputers
built out of whatever the body can get
its hands on. It’s amazing how they
manage to keep us alive, let alone carry
out complicated tasks like writing
and reading and thinking. Throw in
genetics, diet, environment, and stress,
and you've got a fundamental organ
that sometimes just doesn’t work right.
It’s perfectly fine to give your brain
backup when it needs it, and the stigma
people have around it is nonsensical.

It can be hard for people to
empathize with mental health issues.
Hell, even the term “mental health
issues” itself is so loaded and intense,
it can be hard not to associate it with
only the heaviest of problems. Cancers
and indigestion are both legitimate
physical health concerns; likewise,
severe depression and mild ADHD are
both legitimate mental health concerns.
Nobody cares if you get medication
for bad heartburn, and nobody should
care if you get medication because your

brain can’t focus on a single task for
more than a few seconds at a time.

Trying to focus is a huge problem
for students in particular. With our
regular due dates and deadlines
scattered throughout the semester,
students with diagnosed learning
disabilities (myself included) often
find the mid-semester crunch to be
absolutely devastating as assignments
pile up and the brain turns into a
stressed-out backlog of papers and
articles. This is exactly what Adderall
and many other drugs are designed
to help with. They allow the brain
to tune out the background noise
constantly humming away, and allow
you to control where your focus is.

It’s like a pair of mental earplugs.

It’s all about double-standards
here. A student drinking tons of
Monster energy drinks and coffee
is normal, but a pill in the morning
to be more productive is frowned
upon. It’s indicative of the weird way
our culture sees mental health as
something supernatural and almost
sacred, that we shouldn't be tampering
with our brains using medicine.

Our brains are organs, and like
our other organs, it’s not always built
quite right and may need a little help to
function. Patching it up to keep us on
track should never be viewed bad thing.

 

 

 

Illustration by Cara Seccafien

Illustration by Cara Seccafien