October 15, 2003

 

Devilishly Choppy

David Lam Contributor

When you approach a woman, you
should exercise your mind to its fullest
power. This is what I refer to as “The
Game”! I hear this concept misinter-
preted day in, day out, and it hounds
me unforgivingly. In school, at work,
and even within the white ceramics of
bars and nightclubs, this ignorance
echoes. I ponder, frustrated with what I
hear, turning only to question
myself...“Is there no hope for beings
such as me?”

Playing The Game slops out of every
semi-literate, half-wit bearing high
testosterone levels. Which, I must add,
is terribly above the socially accepted

limit.

This overexposure has ironically had
an oddly sanitizing effect on both sexes.
And lest we not forget, dear readers, the
focus of playing The Game is ultimate-
ly SEX. In contrast, the sex I speak of
delights more then your ears, since it’s
not merely the erotic overload that
numbs the brain and dulls the senses
(sex being dragged on for hours) but
mind-blowing lovemaking. And this is
where beings such as myself differ on
various levels. The Game needs a degree
of furtiveness, the bitter-sweetness of
the forbidden fruit.

The Game is all about mystery and

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misrepresentation, delusion and hope.
You disguise yourself as an object of
desire, as the answer to her prayers.
She’s swept out to sea on the tide of her
own fevered imaginings. It’s all smoke
and mirrors.

Successful seductions have enslaved
great minds, toppled empires, and
changed world history. The ability to
master the art of playing The Game is
the ultimate power trip. The good news
is that you don't have to look like Brad
Pitt to succeed, though of course it
would help.

Bulging biceps and six-packs are
always useful, but chivalry, charm, and

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calculated absences will get you further
than good looks alone. And so I present
to you a humble crash course in the
power of genital persuasion. What you
have to realize, men, is that if you are
born with the capacity of a Ferrari,
don’t treat it like a Citi Golf (I apolo-
gize to any owners of the latter-men-
tioned vehicle). You have to make the
thrill of the journey the focus, not the
destination.

Transform yourself into a Casanova
and arm yourself with a psychological
edge that will essentially get you ahead
in “the game”.

     
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
       
     
   
   
   
        
 
     
 
   

¢ Be unpredictable. The moment a woman knows what
to expect from you, your enchantment becomes tar-
nished. Keep her in suspense, then thrill her with a sud-
den change in direction.

-* Haunt her periphery. Begin your seduction at an
indirect angle. If she learns your true intentions too
soon, the chances are good her barriers will shoot up
instinctively. Cultivate a relatively neutral relation-
ship that will lull her into feeling secure with you.

¢ Make yourself scarce. Alternate exciting times with
calculated absences. She must think about you when
she’s alone. The slightest feeling of relief that you're not
there and it’s over. Crowd her at your peril. Take a few
steps back and let her come after you.

¢ Make like Oprah and enter her spirits. Play by her
rules and indulge her every whim. Chivalry is king.
Adapting to her moods gives her nothing to defend
or resist. Instead, she will feel at home with you and
lower her guard.

¢ Intrigue her. Lofty declarations can raise a woman's
suspicions. Disarm her instead with thoughtful gifts
tailored just for her. These subtle gestures show how
much attention you have been paying to her. Any
restraint on her part will soon be flung to the winds.

 

¢ Create a subtext. Never use crude language up
front. Plant seeds by dropping elusive hints that will
take root in her mind for hours later. Combine
ambiguous or suggestive comments with alluring
glances. Follow bold statements with an apology.

¢ Make your move. The moment has arrived. You can
tell she clearly desires you but is not willing to admit it
openly, let alone act on it. She now stands closer to you.
She looks into your eyes. Overwhelm her with a bold
move. Gently draw her toward you, kiss her mouth.
Provided you haven't misread her signals, she is yours
for the taking. However, if she slaps you in the face, it
might be prudent to leave quietly and find yourself
another approach. But not the same night. Go home
and reflect on your strategy.

* Become a man of mystery. Most men are way too _
obvious. Become more enigmatic. Stir her interests
by sending mixed signals. Master the art of insinua-
tion.

   

Fire her desire. Awaken her senses by combing
nonchalance with a charged sexual presence. Never
force anything physical. Instead, lure her into lust.
Let her believe she is seducing you.

 

   

 

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